The Parents’ Perspective: Practice, Practice, Practice!

Welcome to our third installment of the Parents’ Perspective – a mini blog series for parents, by parents, to lend advice, share stories, and more about raising musical children. You can also read past posts on music resources and musical beginnings.

Today’s topic is on practicing: How’d you get your kids to do it? What schedule worked best for you? Was it easy or difficult to get your child to practice? We received a wealth of feedback from parents, and also had guest blogger and piano teacher Maria Rainier weigh in. Enjoy!

Patrick McGuire

A structured practice schedule is helpful!

Roberta McGuire says: “On weekdays, when people have to rise early for work the next day, finishing practicing before 10pm at the latest worked best in our household.  Sometimes, Patrick would practice in between the starting of other subjects’ homework – Practicing seemed to serve as a break from the homework.”

Susie Wuest remembers “Eric would race home from school to practice then and often again after supper.  I think he was bored in school, and the violin presented him with a challenge.  Eric was very athletic and liked to be busy — gymnastics, tennis, baseball, or just playing with friends.  I always made sure that time was saved for practicing everyday.”

Maintaining Motivation

Barbara Nakazawa says “For the young musician a calendar with a sticker reward chart shows a visual form of success. After a certain number of stickers the student receives some type of reward. In my studio I have a prize box.  If it is your child, perhaps going out for ice cream, a movie, or a little toy that they are looking for may be more suitable.  Always remember that happy and proud is the bottom line. As a parent your job is to help make practicing joyful and fun. Laughter is ok too!”

Barbara is a flute teacher in Massachusetts. For more information on her studio, please visit www.newtonfluteteacher.com

Charlotte Kufchak used a creative and unique approach when it came to maintaining practice schedules: “We bought two sizes of dried beans and some sparkly paint. We had a lot of fun making the beans as colorful and pretty as possible. Then we paid the kids in beans for practicing. It was great – we never ran out of ‘cash’.

Each large bean was equal to 10 small beans. (There were some math lessons in there too). Each quarter-hour of practicing was worth a certain number of beans. Each child could save, exchange, or spend their beans as they liked – we had a list of prizes. Examples were special treats, legos, $5 deposit in their bank account, a symphony concert. The beauty of it is that it can be tailored to each child’s needs, each family’s budget and priorities. And, the kids were willing to practice!”

Guest blogger/piano teacher Maria Rainier advises: “Having mid-year and end-of-year recitals can be a huge motivator for practicing. Students get excited about performing for family and friends, which means that they’re happy to practice more and make the big moment even more impressive. Just make sure that your students aren’t too nervous and that they don’t try to put in excessive practice hours just before the recitals. Practice burn-out makes recital performances flop and discourages students, contributing to the idea that practice doesn’t increase success. It always helps to talk to your students about their feelings and apprehensions before recitals.”

Maria Rainier is a freelance writer and blog junkie. She is currently a resident blogger at First in Education, researching areas of online degree programs. In her spare time, she enjoys square-foot gardening, swimming, and avoiding her laptop.

The Suzuki Approach

Judy Merritt has had great success with the Suzuki approach: “The practice went through phases because it was a Suzuki approach, which requires active parent involvement on all levels. That means that when both Ted and Emma started music at age 4, every Saturday was a full morning of Solfedge, Eurhythmics, private and group lessons, and performances at the end of a semester at City Music Center at Duquesne University. Every evening was practice that we structured as parents until Ted and Emma were around 12, at that point they took over.”

Other Words of Advice

Roberta McGuire: The desire to improve needs to come from the child and can’t be forced. The best thing a parent can do to be supportive is to relax, support the child the best they can with a practice space, the materials they need and let the private teacher set the expectations and ground rules.  If you try to force them to practice, the extra stress will only discourage them.  A better strategy is to let the private teacher do the “heavy lifting”.

Sean Robbins

Vicky Robbins says, “Since my son (Sean Robbins) plays traditional Hawaiian slack-key guitar, his teachers were very flexible, informal and encouraging. He would learn new repertoire then practice on his own until he became more comfortable playing the pieces he’d learned. Performing at informal gatherings was also a way to become more skilled, while at the same time improving his comfort level in front of an audience. (Something that came in handy for his From the Top appearance!)”

Barbara Nakazawa: “I teach a practicing method called “the three penny practice.” (Be sure to have a jar of pennies in your possession.) You put three pennies on the left side of the stand. On a troublesome measure that you are “practicing” you play it once and if you get it right, you put the penny on the right side of the stand. You play it again and get it right, you put the next penny on the right side of the stand. You play it again and miss a note or rhythm, then all three pennies get put to the left. You must play the measure correctly three times in a row in order to keep the pennies.  The next step is to connect the troublesome measure to the measure before it and continue playing.  This teaches a student how to practice and not just simply play through something once.

Maria Rainier: “Warming up is an important part of practicing and should be the first thing on each week’s assignment sheet. For example, you might have a set of index cards with different warm-ups written on them for students to choose when they come in for their lessons. Many students enjoy having a role in their own instruction, so allowing them to pick a card from the stack makes all the difference. You can easily copy the cards from your studio and send some home with your students for their daily practice warm-ups. This establishes consistency between home and the studio, helping students to feel both more serious and more comfortable about their practice sessions.”

Thanks again to all our awesome parents out there who helped with this blog. We are currently looking for ideas for our next topic in this blog series! If you have ideas or a certain subject you’d like to hear more on, please email Eleanor.

5 Responses

  1. Speaking as a pianist myself, a mother of 3 talented, musical teen-agers, and a piano teacher, I can’t say enough about the value of early-morning practice. You are fresh (as long as you’re fully awake) and the mind is remarkably free yet to focus on the music. Of course, this assumes a decent sleep the night before.
    Unfortunately, I can not convince many parents of my students to even give it a try.

  2. Being a father of 4 youngsters, I recognize the dilemma of asking, requesting, suggesting or forcing (??) the kids to practice. I can recommend on a great practicing tool that makes tedious practice time a great fun for the kids (and motivates that to play for hours). Goto http://www.joytunes.com – and you’ll find a practicing, interactive computer game that is controlled by the real playing of the kid (no tech, no cables – real instruments!). Recommended !

  3. How do you handle a child who is very gifted musically but hates it? My 13 year old son hates to practice and has no real desire or motivation to excel, but has a talent and I hate to see it wasted. Any suggestions would be helpful and appreciated. I believe it will help him and others in so many ways.

    • Hey Jenni,
      I hear ya’…
      Anything in life that is considered to be a burden will not last for long. If your son doesn’t see the importance of practicing OR he doesn’t have fun, than he won’t practice, period.
      I try to turn the practicing time to fun, by:
      1. using wonderful tools such as the JoyTunes Games’. These are actually very educational, and lots of fun (kids practice for hours).
      2. For older kids – family games related to music; play together (if you are into music yourself); tutoring others (make him teach/guide a younger kid – usually it affects the guides even more than the students).
      Good luck and share your experience…

  4. […] fan comment inspired this next installment in The Parents’ Perspective. A few weeks ago, Jenni asked us: “How do you handle a child who is very gifted musically but hates it? My 13 year old son […]

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